In the samples below the first statement is a common idea that is self-limiting.  It is followed by possibilities (indicated with a >) that are more likely to lead us to better outcomes.   I couldn't ask some of these questions. The questions you least want to ask are where your greatest problems will appear. These questions were prepared by thoughtful people who want the best for both of us. They have been asked by thousands of people. We won’t be held to the answers, but they can show our ability to deal with difficult issues. The most essential part of our relationship will be our ability to communicate. If we aren’t good at it, it is best to take our time.

In the samples below the first statement is a common idea that is self-limiting.  It is followed by possibilities (indicated with a >) that are more likely to lead us to better outcomes.   I have never felt so complete, I want to get married ASAP. More than half of all marriages fail, so I will take my time and do my homework. So I don’t get blinded by the packaging, how can I get to know this person on a deeper level? I will discuss all the items on the G-3 check lists with him or her.

In the samples below the first statement is a common idea that is self-limiting.  It is followed by possibilities (indicated with a >) that are more likely to lead us to better outcomes. I have used my best thinking to get where I am; this must be my potential. > With better ideas and less effort I could have accomplished a lot more. > With better ideas and no more effort, my life can be bigger and better. Just surviving takes all of my energy. > I can accomplish more with my mind than I can with body. To make that happen, I am reading Get Life Right.