Even when both people want to do everything they can to have a good relationship, feelings still get bruised.
Often the way you say something can be more harmful than what you say.
Statements that begin with “I” are clear. Statements that begin with “You” are either criticisms or riddles. Most people would rather help you with a demanding request than try to solve the riddle of why you are angry or what you want.
You can always get your way by letting the other person’s way become your way.
Your best and most endearing quality may be how graciously you deal with the things you lack.
The qualities and skills we don’t have and can’t get are like “Bubbles.” There is nothing there.
What is causing the distance between me and him or her?
How can I get the closeness back?
Can I give up my need to win arguments?
“Conflict in close relationships is not only inevitable, it’s essential. Intimacy connects people who are inevitably different.”
—Martha Beck at Martha Beck.com