Appreciation and affection build closeness, dissatisfaction can only build distance. This is why daily AA meetings are so important for your relationships.
But how are you showing your appreciation and affection? We often assume the way we want to be appreciated and receive affection are the same ways our partner wants to receive it. It’s really important to ask how your partner likes to be appreciated. And what kind of affection they like. You may be surprised by the answer.
Tonight, even if you are upset or hurt by your partner, think of something you appreciate them for and let them know. A single sentence could break down a wall that’s been building for years.
If you can’t think of something to appreciate or you’re scared to say it because of the wall, here are some thought starters:
“Have I mentioned I really love when you ____?”
“When was the last time I told you I appreciate _____?”
“I know I don’t say it often enough, but I really appreciate when you ____.”