Appreciation and affection build closeness, dissatisfaction can only build distance. This is why daily AA meetings are so important for your relationships. But how are you showing your appreciation and affection?  We often assume the way we want to be appreciated and receive affection are the same ways our partner wants to receive it.  It’s really important to ask how your partner likes to be appreciated.  And what kind of affection they like.  You may be surprised by the answer.