In the samples below the first statement is a common idea that is self-limiting.  It is followed by possibilities (indicated with a >) that are more likely to lead us to better outcomes.   I have never felt so complete, I want to get married ASAP. More than half of all marriages fail, so I will take my time and do my homework. So I don’t get blinded by the packaging, how can I get to know this person on a deeper level? I will discuss all the items on the G-3 check lists with him or her.