In the samples below the first statement is a common idea that is self-limiting.  It is followed by possibilities (indicated with a >) that are more likely to lead us to better outcomes.   I couldn't ask some of these questions. The questions you least want to ask are where your greatest problems will appear. These questions were prepared by thoughtful people who want the best for both of us. They have been asked by thousands of people. We won’t be held to the answers, but they can show our ability to deal with difficult issues. The most essential part of our relationship will be our ability to communicate. If we aren’t good at it, it is best to take our time.