I’ve only had two serious confrontations with one of my kids. Even though both experiences put him on the hot seat, after some awkward moments he thanked me. In both cases, his fear of what was to come was far worse than warranted, so my intrusion actually reduced his anxiety.
Leave your big voice, hold the “should have’s” and anger, listen intently and work together toward a good outcome for both of you. Handled properly, these experiences can be bonding experiences.
