Conflict as Bonding Opportunity
Conflicts as Bonding Opportunities Dave Chat – Relationship Series Sally vented about some problems in their relationship in very heated terms. As she started Hal was looking for the right time to say: • You were brave to bring up these subjects. • I heard what you said and you made some good points. • […]
Stubbornness-Be-Gone!
I wore the standard men’s haircut for 47 years. More than several times before my wife died she had asked me to wear it longer, but when I told the barber he didn’t listen. My girlfriend asked me to wear it longer. When it seemed really long I told my barber to leave it […]
A Well-Placed Approach Can Revitalize the Rest of Two Lives
Tell her “I need more affection.” Cuddle her to sleep or awake. Be there when she wakes up in the morning. Go on walks and go shopping with her and push the cart instead of reading the magazines. Hold her hand. Ask for her opinion. Take her places where she can dress up. Dress better […]
Resolving Arguments for Closeness Guaranteed
Reolving Arguments The affection that comes from making up and resolving arguments far exceeds anything you can gain by clinging to your point, resentment, hurt, or receiving the apology you need desperately for your bruised ego. Sally had been upset with Hal for a long time. When she finally unloaded on him, she cut him […]
KEEPING THE PEACE CAN START A COLD WAR
Hal would have opened up to Sally completely if he felt wanted. He believed she would have opened up to him if she had felt wanted, but that wasn’t happening. What Sally needed was for Hal to make her feel feminine, desired and worth fighting for. Even if she could have stated her need that […]
ALL COUPLES NEED: DAILY AA MEETINGS.
Appreciation and affection build closeness, dissatisfaction can only build distance. This is why daily AA meetings are so important for your relationships. But how are you showing your appreciation and affection? We often assume the way we want to be appreciated and receive affection are the same ways our partner wants to receive it. It’s […]
