Series E – Attract People You’d Like to Be Like
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E-1 Making Friends:
Getting to know people is hard.
- Social skills are easy to learn and use, especially if I practice them with everyone I meet.
- The more interested I can get in them the more interest they’ll show in me.
I am stuck where I am.
- Being stuck is a state of mind suggests I have stopped looking for alternatives. I can choose to be unstuck. I haven’t even scratched the surface of possibilities.
I can’t learn from anyone in my life at present.
- If I do what I like to do, or want to do, people with similar interests will be there and be more like me.
E-2 Keeping Friends:
The people I would like for friends don’t seem to notice that I exist.
- Those who don’t may be so into themselves that they wouldn’t be good friends even if they did.
- I will do more that involves interacting with others.
- Friends will show up if I replace some of my bad Plays with good ones and concentrate on what I can offer instead of what I can get.
I can’t grow unless I move on.
- If my plan for life is good and it includes opportunities for social interaction, the right people will remain and new ones will show up.
My friends will think I am snubbing them if I move on.
- Showing them how to improve themself and escape their surroundings will be better for them than watching me be stuck with them.
E-3 Making Conversation:
I have trouble getting into conversations because I can’t remember people’s names.
- If I ask questions about what interests others, they will think I am good conversationalist. Once I get a person talking about what he or she likes, if I ask them to repeat their name they won’t mind; it will show I am interested in them.
I just can’t start a conversation.
- If I know a few standard conversation starting questions and practice them on everyone I meet, I can get acquainted with just about anyone quickly and comfortably.
E-4 Making Yourself Irresistible:
The more I want to get acquainted the more I get tongue-tied I get.
- I’ll look at each attempt as a rehearsal and practice on everyone I meet.
E-5 Likability Skills:
I don’t like who I have become.
- The thought of replacing my stale routines with some fresh approaches can be very exciting if I look at it as an adventure.
When there are long silences in the conversation, it makes me anxious.
- They are probably feeling the same; I can put them at ease by ask the other person what they are thinking.
- I will not assume it is my fault.
- I will apply some of my conversation-starting questions to a subject I think my conversation partner will like.
E-10 Dwindling Romance:
He’s not affectionate.
- I have not been affectionate with him.
- Every time he starts a conversation I use it to criticize him, give him to-dos, whine, or remind him of how afraid I am about our finances.
- I never tell him what a good job he is doing or show interest in the things that interest him.
- I will start offering ideas on what we can do together that he might consider fun.
- I will touch him every chance I get.