Conflict as Bonding Opportunity
Conflicts as Bonding Opportunities Dave Chat – Relationship Series Sally vented about some problems in their relationship in very heated terms. As she started Hal was looking for the right time to say: • You were brave to bring up these subjects. • I heard what you said and you made some good points. • […]
Stubbornness-Be-Gone!
I wore the standard men’s haircut for 47 years. More than several times before my wife died she had asked me to wear it longer, but when I told the barber he didn’t listen. My girlfriend asked me to wear it longer. When it seemed really long I told my barber to leave it […]
An Ego Lost Can Be A Good Thing ;)
When I hike I don’t stop to pick any buttercups. Hiking up trails, I don’t get passed very often. I was really surprised when two charming young girls caught me. I usually hike alone so having companions would have been fun. But the taller gal, the frequent marathoner, motored away right away. Dutifully; the young […]
20 Excellent Tips for Making Good Conversation
20 Excellent Tips for Making Good Conversation Talking is how we teach. And listening is how we learn. Here are 20 tips to keep your conversations moving along in the right direction: Never say anything bad about yourself or another person. Practice being outgoing, warm, and friendly with everyone until it is natural for […]
CREATE CLOSENESS-HONOR THE GIFTS OF TENDER MOMENTS
How do you create closeness with your spouse or partner? How do you destroy it? Using something your mate has said in a moment of affection, openness, weakness or request for forgiveness in order to punish them, get even, or to make your point will kill your closeness. That is particularly sad because the most […]
Radioactive Reactions
Your reactions to a situation can cause more damage than the situation itself. You cannot go ballistic without giving yourself permission to do so. The emotions you use, you choose. Almost always; when you give yourself permission to hurt the other person by unloading or going ballistic, you have said things you would love to […]
THE FASTEST WAY TO A COMPLETE MAKEOVER
Certain events and beliefs change the rules we live by. They can cause us to be bold or afraid, beaten or determined, sadder or wiser, to shrink from or rise above. The meanings we attribute to them are called “Tags”. For example if your partner is late for dinner on a regular basis, you could […]
Resolving Arguments for Closeness Guaranteed
Reolving Arguments The affection that comes from making up and resolving arguments far exceeds anything you can gain by clinging to your point, resentment, hurt, or receiving the apology you need desperately for your bruised ego. Sally had been upset with Hal for a long time. When she finally unloaded on him, she cut him […]
Friends Who Care – Share
If you had the best secret in the world and didn’t share it, not even with your best friend, you wouldn’t be much of a friend. The secret is that someone special wants to have a personal relationship with you. He (or she) is handy, helpful, and easy to get along with. It’s your creator, […]
KEEPING THE PEACE CAN START A COLD WAR
Hal would have opened up to Sally completely if he felt wanted. He believed she would have opened up to him if she had felt wanted, but that wasn’t happening. What Sally needed was for Hal to make her feel feminine, desired and worth fighting for. Even if she could have stated her need that […]
